Posted May 8th, 2013
The Course tells us not to judge ourselves for feeling unable or unwilling to forgive ourselves. Know that Jesus isn’t judging us. Love never judges or condemns. Actually, it can be very helpful to honestly acknowledge just how much we do NOT want to forgive ourselves. What’s really going on is that the ego wants us to be special and different because we think we are unforgivable. Everyone else can be forgiven, but not us. Being unforgivable makes us worse than everyone else and therefore special and different. The ego doesn’t care if we perceive ourselves as better or as worse than other people, just as long as we’re different.
As we work on self-forgiveness, observe these ego dynamics doing their crazy thing and don’t judge. Not forgiving ourselves is just an ego habit. At some point, we’ll realize that our judgments and unforgiveness against ourselves are keeping us from peace. We’ll realize that it’s just not worth it. Then we’ll say, “There must be another way.” That “other way” is to change our minds and make the choice to love ourselves again, just as the Holy Spirit loves us. God loves us and He does not want us to be in that place of hating ourselves and beating ourselves up. We just made a mistake. We are still beautiful to Him. Nothing has changed. We are still Love. When we forgive ourselves, we can really live these words: “Salvation is my only function here. Thus do you lay forgiveness on your mind and let all fear be gently laid aside, that love may find its rightful place in you and show you that you are the Son of God” (W-pI.99.12:4-5)
Are you ready to forgive yourself? See Chapter 4 in our new book, Change Your Mind! Talks on Living A Course in Miracles for more on forgiving yourself. Also see our Forgiveness class that starts Thursday, May 9th, “Forgiving THOSE Relationships”.
The entries in this volume of Change Your Mind! are taken from Revs. Deb and Paul Phelps’ weekly Practical Miracles Messages that are given each Sunday at MiraclesOne in Madison, Wisconsin. Each Message is recorded for video and audio but many people have been requesting that we make them available in print form. The Change Your Mind! series is our response to that request.
Volume 1 – Can You Hear Me Now? * Grandeur vs. Grandiosity * The Only Teacher * Forgiving Yourself * What, Me Angry? * Off the Beaten Path * Only Equals are at Peace * Attack and Defense * Happy Laughter * Healthy Body or Healed Mind?
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