“Remember always that you cannot be anywhere except in the Mind of God. When you forget this, you will despair and you will attack” (T-9.VIII.5:3-4). Bingo! Bazinga! That’s exactly what we do! We forget; then we attack. We may be Course students, but we still do this. Once we forget the truth about ourselves, we become frightened, we despair, we attack. We project our guilt and self-hatred onto others. We criticize and find fault. These are the little ways we express our separation from each other and from God. They represent the thought of self-hate, which is our guilt over what we believe we did when we destroyed Heaven.
In a study group, for example, we may attack someone’s interpretation of a Course passage. Of course we’ll all have different takes on different passages. The problem comes when we think we’re right and the other person is wrong. We’re not seeing our basic equality. The Holy Spirit is present in every person’s mind. You might get different insights than I do, but that doesn’t make one of us wrong and the other right. We get different insights because the Holy Spirit is working with each of us individually. He’s working with you the way He needs to and with me the way He needs to. Each of us is where he or she needs to be. There’s no need for attack.
“The ego depends solely on your willingness to tolerate it. If you are willing to look upon your grandeur you cannot despair, and therefore you cannot want the ego” (T-9.VIII.6:1-2). Obviously, when we’re aware of the Love of God, why would we want anything less? I wouldn’t! I want what is True, which is our grandeur. My grandeur and your grandeur is God’s Answer to the lie of the ego, which is littleness and grandiosity. “Littleness and grandeur cannot coexist, nor is it possible for them to alternate. Littleness and grandiosity can and must alternate, since both are untrue and are therefore on the same level. Being the level of shift, it is experienced as shifting and extremes are its essential characteristic” (T-9.VIII.6:4-6). Extremes! Shifts! Well, we all know about that, don’t we? And not just those of us with teenage children! The ego is constantly shifting back and forth and going to extremes. First, I think I’m worse than everyone else. Then I think I’m better. I’m extremely superior or extremely inferior. Back and forth, back and forth. It’s exhausting! The ego’s world is about constant change and constant illusion to keep us off-balance and distracted.
“Truth and littleness are denials of each other because grandeur is truth. Truth does not vacillate; it is always true. When grandeur slips away from you, you have replaced it with something you have made. Perhaps it is the belief in littleness; perhaps it is the belief in grandiosity. Yet it must be insane because it is not true. Your grandeur will never deceive you, but your illusions always will. Illusions are deceptions. You cannot triumph, but you are exalted. And in your exalted state you seek others like you and rejoice with them” (T-9.VIII.7:1-9). There ain’t nothing but the Truth! We may be in that space of knowing our grandeur and the Love of God — say, in meditation — but afterwards, something else creeps in. We finish our meditation. Then we get an email or read Facebook or we meet someone and all of a sudden we begin to make comparisons. We think, “Oh, this person is doing so much more than me.” Or we think, “I’m doing so much better than that person.” That’s where the insanity slips in. Comparisons divide us from our brothers and keep us separate in our own special, insane space. But when we withdraw our belief in comparisons, we can experience that we really are one. In that exalted state, as Jesus says, we see others as ourselves in Truth.
“It is easy to distinguish grandeur from grandiosity, because love is returned and pride is not. Pride will not produce miracles, and will therefore deprive you of the true witnesses to your reality. Truth is not obscure nor hidden, but its obviousness to you lies in the joy you bring to its witnesses, who show it to you. They attest to your grandeur, but they cannot attest to pride because pride is not shared. God wants you to behold what He created because it is His joy” (T-9.VIII.8:1-5). So with our grandeur, there’s also humility. The Song of Prayer tells us: “Humility has come to teach you how to understand your glory as God’s Son …” (S-V.3:2). I am the Grandeur of God, yes, but I don’t have to shout it from the rooftops. Instead, I can quietly know that this is my Identity. I am as God created me.
As a result, we can do what we’re guided to do with calm confidence. We don’t have to blow our own horn. We do not have to be like other people nor expect others to be like us. At our ministry here at MiraclesOne, we don’t do that. We accept everyone as he or she is. The Holy Spirit is working with each of us perfectly. If I’m following Holy Spirit’s guidance for our ministry, I don’t need to worry about what other people or other teachers or organizations are doing. I just need to stay on the path that Holy Spirit has guided me to. I know there are a lot of other things that I could do to compete or compare or whatever, but no, always bring it back to: “Holy Spirit, what would You guide me to do? What would You have me do to be truly helpful to others?”
Jesus continues in this section: “Can your grandeur be arrogant when God Himself witnesses to it? And what can be real that has no witnesses? What good can come of it? And if no good can come of it the Holy Spirit cannot use it. What He cannot transform to the Will of God does not exist at all. Grandiosity is delusional, because it is used to replace your grandeur. Yet what God has created cannot be replaced. God is incomplete without you because His grandeur is total, and you cannot be missing from it” (T-9-VIII.9:1-8). Let’s face it. It’s high time we admitted that grandiosity is delusional. It’s an insane thought we made up to replace Truth. Basically, it’s us not wanting to be equal with our brothers. That’s why this whole crazy world came into being: The tiny, mad idea that I don’t want to be equal; I want to be special; I want to be seen; I want to be known; I want to be admired. It’s nothing but a “specialness mask” that hides our real Identity as Christ. It’s time to let go of that mask, that façade of grandiosity and littleness.
So we ask Holy Spirit, “Help me when these feelings come up and I don’t know what to do with myself. Help me when I’m feeling that I want to be better than someone or when I feel that I’m less than someone else. Help me when I’m comparing myself to others. Help me to stay true to You and to Your Will for me.” To that end, put blinders on and stay focused on Holy Spirit and not on what others are doing. Ask Holy Spirit to tell you if He wants you to help someone or if He wants you to say something or do something. Holy Spirit will always communicate what He wants you to do from the position of the Truth about Who you are. Then we can share that Truth and see it in others as well.
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The entries in this volume of Change Your Mind! are taken from Revs. Deb and Paul Phelps’ weekly Practical Miracles Messages that are given each Sunday at MiraclesOne in Madison, Wisconsin. Each Message is recorded for video and audio but many people have been requesting that we make them available in print form. The Change Your Mind!series is our response to that request.
Volume 1 – Can You Hear Me Now? * Grandeur vs. Grandiosity * The Only Teacher * Forgiving Yourself * What, Me Angry? * Off the Beaten Path * Only Equals are at Peace * Attack and Defense * Happy Laughter * Healthy Body or Healed Mind?
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