In every situation that crosses our path we have a choice. Too often though, the choice has been blaming others for our discomfort. Be it another person, an organization, the government, society, financial institutions or the media. We place the blame squarely on someone else’s shoulders instead of looking within as to where the problem lies.
What is “Forgiveness” according to A Course in Miracles? Forgiveness is first a central teaching in the Course. It leads us to happiness. Through forgiveness, we come to know we are innocent and one with each other and our Creator. Our function is forgiveness, however, it is completed alone, but through the assistance of the Holy Spirit. It is a release from what we thought occurred in the world. In truth, in Heaven, it has never occurred. This is different than the traditional viewpoint on forgiveness.
In Lesson 5 we are reminded “I am never upset for the reason I think.” We think the problem is real outside of us, hence the blame game we play again and again. Believe me, I too, have played that game, yet with my practice of A Course in Miracles it becomes mere blips on the screen rather than all out day after day upset.
Forgiveness, as Jesus tells us in the “What is Forgiveness?” section prior to Lesson 221 in the Workbook for Students, is:
Forgiveness, on the other hand, is still, and quietly does nothing. It offends no aspect of reality, nor seeks to twist it to appearances it likes. It merely looks, and waits, and judges not. He who would not forgive must judge, for he must justify his failure to forgive. But he who would forgive himself must learn to welcome truth exactly as it is.
If we come to realize that what we see outside of us is not the cause of our upset and that seen with Jesus and the Holy Spirit’s eyes will result in forgiveness. When we look at the issue in front of we are not judging it in any way. He asks us to simply look at the unreality of the problem.
Easier said than done, right?
If we profess to be ACIM students, it is more helpful to work through the issue than to simply intellectualize what Jesus refers to in regards to “forgiveness.” The words in the Course are poignant indeed, yet, we are called upon to actually use the words to help to free us from our thorny path. This is bringing ACIM to “life.”
When we look at the situations that call for forgiveness, we are asked to step back and look at what the ego is doing without any judgment at all. We notice the insanity of it when joined with our Inner Teacher. When we are hell-bent on the problem, then we will never see the love underneath.
Nothing in this world can take our peace away. Too often we give our peace away readily. We willingly give away the power of our mind and become the victim. I have heard this from students throughout my many years of teaching. They will relate a situation and it is consistent in the referral to the other person or entity as the problem. Even sometimes too I have been referred to as the “problem” or the obstacle to a student’s learning. The ego’s projection is so maniacal in its deception that it will use anyone in front of us, even those we love. It will whisper to us to run away rather than to face the truth in our minds. Here, we need to move from the “other” as the problem to realizing the problem is in our own mind.
We have been afraid of love in our mind. We say we desire love, yet if we allow love in we are terrified that our ego self would dissolve into nothingness. Hence, we continue to insist the problem is “outside” instead of “inside.”
The real problem is the separation. The real answer is the Atonement.
~ From our book “The Holy Place of Forgiveness”